Carolyn Hax: He’s my real dad. Shouldn’t he know I exist?
[2023-11-28 13:38:32]
Dear Caroline: When I was eighteen, my father revealed that my father is not my biological father. She did not even know my biological father, and insisted I never contacted him.
Fast for 12 years without any further conversation. I will talk to her about this topic again. This time she finally admitted that he knew who he was. She showed me his Facebook profile and said, "One of his daughters looks like you."
When I was pregnant, he obviously had a connection with his current wife.
I would like to contact him, but I got a lot of resistance from my mother 's house. I think that it is human rights to know that there are children. Help me
First of all, I am sorry this is how your mother treats this news. This is obviously complicated. She has a secret, so she wishes to protect her growing father. These truss houses have several cards.
Next, you are the heir of this house. Please tell all relatives who are pushed back. This is your biology, your father, and now your decision. Guarantee them to consider the potential impact - but this is no longer their result. Except for sympathy and worry, you will not lose to anyone
Third, when you suggest that this is your biological father's right to know, you imply an unproductive inference. Whatever you decide, you need to pay attention to him, yes - but it is not arrogant. Only he needs what I need. Confidential means that he can not decide by himself, so you can decide only what you need for your value. And please pay attention to everyone's result, please do this again.
This includes more advanced hair splits, but I think that this is an important hair split. If you progress steadily, you will have moral or cosmic support for him, and this may give you a quick and hard counterattack.
You did not mention about being angry with your mother, but if this is your current confusion factor: anger will be a natural and effective reaction, a positive deal Let's see.
Lie and secret anger will make you ruin things
First of all, any anger to a good therapist - or just solve the problem - and do not rush to decide who, how, when, and why
There is an old saying that "Hurry up to marry, repent in your spare time." This seems to be an opportunity for "to hurry and repent"
To "push back" wants to get rid of the connection with biological father. Relationship? The answer is? Do you check? It seems important to understand it before contacting him.
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