My dad loves his work more than he loves me and my brother. What should I do?
[2024-02-27 16:04:25]
As a child, we may misunderstand our parents. Because mothers are usually emotional, they will show their own love, but their fathers are a bit different
Let me tell you my story, as my father defends it, it is a bit strict with our rules and regulations. My brother and sister were afraid of him from childhood, they made me believe he was Hitler.
Therefore, when speaking between relatives, I usually call him Hitler. But I tell you that for a drama about his personality, I never had a proper conversation with my father.
If I had to watch TV, I would hide myself behind the curtains or numb it when he told me to do something for me. Until I grew, I did not try to understand him for many years.
We understand that they care about us more than mothers, but they do not show up, they love you and show them with their actions rather than words.
So do not think, please do not change.
I am not the father's fault. There is no excuse, but my father knows that I love my older brother very much. He is not a biological father of my brother, but it took him many years to try to legally adopt my brother to live a better life. He never succeeded in adoption, but he still gave me the happiness of everything he might want, until one day he would like to share more things This is an attempt to connect with my brother at a deeper level. They say that the way to hell has a good meaning. My father did not plan to live my brother's life, and in so doing, my brother took over his life.
When I was born, my mother liked to talk about interesting stories about my brothers. At that time my 5 year old brother was looking forward to me and I was looking forward to love. So one of the things he has to do is place his face near me in front of me, kiss me, or make a face. My brother does not know that the sight of a newborn baby is not very good, so when my boyfriend approaches me, my head will instinctively turn away from him as I can not concentrate. This is very irritating for him. He thinks that this means that I do not love him, he can not understand the reason. Mom tried to explain to him why this happened, but when you feel uneasy, the comfort and logical scientific explanation of affectionate mothers are not always sufficient. Mom said: "Look! He truly loves you."
My father loves me, my older brother loves me, my husband really loves me, but I do not feel like this. His big blue eyes saw me as if I were the only important person. I am all about him, hey and all. The love he gave to me was perfect - he did not need me wisely, ironically or beautifully. He is not interested in the clothes I am wearing, when I took a shower in the morning, or when I read previous nonfiction. I heard my voice or I saw my smile, his whole face got brighter. I am his house. I spent a lot of my twenties to find this kind of love. Love that surrounds you and protects you makes you more focused, confident, and feel like your love. I do not know that it will be found at the age of 4 months, but now I have found it, I am a bit scared. It made me feel naked and exposed. As he grows, will he continue to prefer witty counterattacks he sees behind the mascara?