I think that the people you reflect are what you loved and loved. During romantic love there is a reward in the brain that allows dopamine and oxytocin to be expressed in the corresponding synapses in specific areas such as ventral medial prefrontal cortex, islands and ventral striatum.
When you do not have such a love goal, you will feel pain in the internal organs of the body, such as the heart and stomach. Under classical circumstances, this is called frustrated non-reward or negative punishment.
As early as mid 2000 I examined the cingulate cingulate. This brain structure is inside the cortex and is functionally diverse. The posterior region is projected onto the sensory region of the cortex and its anterior region is projected onto the forehead region to deal with execution problems and other cortical affective regions such as islands. When undisturbed, it reduces waking up and promotes health, happy emotions, self-references and rewards for completion
How is this related to your painful problem? Unrequited love love is not permitted to express this area. More areas behind the cuffs are allowed to be expressed, and are associated with emotional pain. For neuroscience research, please refer to Naomi Eisenberg and Matthew Lieberman. Fields related to compensation can never be expressed. As shown below, the activity still exists in the cingulate cingulate and the ACC on the back rewards the uncertainty and is considered pain
I remember my first broken heart. I suddenly felt the loss of someone who I thought was my heart. I remember my head hurt because of pain in my body, but suddenly I went into my heart. I remember being alone. I remember crying. I still remember my husband holding his hand for the first time. We spent a lot of time together before we couple. From the beginning it was obvious that our mutual relationship far exceeded "just friends". But since we had some relationships before (we are going to admit) we decided to "take it slowly". This means that most of us hope to get to know each other within the group. We want to wait and even hold hands. A few months later, we are all ready to raise friendship to a new level.
My two-and-a-half-year-old son stood there and said, "Mom, when you shouted at me, you hurt my heart." His eyes apologized. I told him I'm really sorry, I told him he was right I shouted at him yesterday, I was wrong. I asked him to forgive him for hurting his heart and I told him I tried to avoid hurting his heart. When it is difficult to say a word, I teach my children to draw and write pictures to express my feelings, frustration, fear, failure and accomplishment. One thing we have to do is WAS / IS communication. Over the years, some of these letters have expressed a terrible suffering. Even in pain, I let my son make judgments too soonly, when they feel tolerant, when the answer is no, when they think I am just a clumsy, unfair, unfair, disgusting He begins.