Why does strict parenting lead to sneaky children?

That's really my case. Born in the 1950s when strict parenting became more common. My mother hits, punishes, screams, for children who do not submit or make a mistake. I hate making mistakes, I do not like being punished. It taught me to lie in an introspective way to get out of the problem. I solved the curfew problem sneakily outside the house.

The way I learn to deal with regulations from parents, make a mistake, or deal with a trouble is not suitable for adults. I have to recover from drug and alcohol abuse. When the project went downhill, I learned to talk to my boss and get help.

I am still aware that I am lying in my workplace and will fix it immediately. "Wait, that is not true ... really ..."

My husband was raised by "forgiving" parents listening to their children and encouraging them in the direction they wanted without being punished. My husband is generous, truly kind and sincere, always blessed with others. He is very successful in his career

I will do my best to irresponsibly bring up my children. Over the years, my mother has criticized me for saying that I am "breaking them". My desire to punish my child came from anger and I found it to be a desire to control them to obey my wish. It is hard to see. Not all strict parents have this motive, but I think that is very common

Chea Thavy, a social worker by People's Improvement Organization, said parents want strict requirements for their children, but that should be reasonable. Several children in the community she visited told her that her parents became despicable children due to too strict. She added that by communicating with them in a gentle way, children are more likely to think about their actions and understand the pros and cons of what they do. "Parents should also try to understand their attitudes and whether they respond to the word" cool "or" hot ", she said.

Strict parents nurture sneaky children. Building dates and relationships is like forbidden fruit for young people and they are influenced by Western culture so they want to chase it more. However, in Nepalese society, a positive attitude has not been taken. Parents often worry about children's performance, but in the future, if you see a child involved with your child, you must take dramatic actions. Teenagers should be allowed to date. They should be allowed to explore and understand what they want from among their particulars. Some broken hearts become lessons and can teach them about humanity and the facts Because everyone does it so they do not need to hurry to build a relationship. The best way to deal with teenage relationships is to stick to this idea. Most schools currently teach sex education, but that does not mean that parents should avoid "that kind of conversation". Parents need to check their children regularly, but I believe they can solve the problem myself.