When My Parents Got Divorced

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When my parents divorced, I was about 3 years old. I never knew what it is like to live in a house with two parents. The only marriage I saw was my parent's second marriage. That is my reality. The idea that my former husband and my wife in front become friends and become friends is a strange concept to me. Since it does not exist in my world, I believe that reality does not exist elsewhere as a child. My biological father always insisted that my former spouse, especially those who share children, is unusual.

Ten years ago, when my child was 4 years old and 2 years old, I got divorced. From the beginning, we agreed with common parent responsibility - 50/50. This is everything I claimed and my ex-wife understood it. This is fair. We are all their parents, we do not want to spend half of their time without them, but this is reasonable. To understand how to move public baths, children with different gender do not use home toilets. (By the way, that is not easy.Our three people have become disabled booths for male toilets many times, others are facing each other, but mothers have to do this everyday not.)

Personally, when my parents divorced, I got confused. My parents divorce is my fault. At the same time, I felt possession. I should now be responsible for taking care of the other two brothers and sisters who became a man of this family and were living together at that time. I advise my mother and my father all the time and seem to be trying to "fix" their marriage. This only gives me more pressure, deviates from me, makes me frustrated, and makes me painful. It took a few years to finally accept and divorce my parents' divorce, but no one had spent time listening to, supporting, encouraging and loving me.