What's the difference between a sadist and a masochist? What are the similarities?

I am a sadist and a masochist, but I think that these are on both sides of the same coin, so I will explain the similarities between the two. But what I want to say is mainly based on myself and may not be well summarized.

My hypothesis is that the core of sadism and masochism is usually an aversion to behavior that shows love and is concerned about general well-being. This may be caused by caregivers who love you when you are young, but his love is uncomfortable because it involves too much anxiety, fear or other negative emotions.

Therefore, when sadism and masochism come closer to intimacy, they need to remove loose responsibility of doing love and accepting There are many negative associations behind these behaviors. Sadist removes the sense of expressing love in the opposite way and releases himself from accepting it as his "victim" does not provide it. Maso can not do it, he does not expect it, so that he does not need to love someone himself because he can not get love - actions

In my opinion, S & M is not about pain and suffering mainly, but these are only means for achieving intimacy and there is no typical worry about general happiness *. Another way to achieve this goal is shame and objectivity

* Of course, those practicing BDSM pay attention to their common happiness, but they did not appear during the game. I only explained the appearance. Show the appearance of this trick

There are structural similarities between abusers and oppressors. A sadist who whipped the masochist also beats himself as well, and when he dominates the oppressor the oppressor dominates himself. People who are abused also punish abusers in whip when they are whipped. Likewise, dominated oppressed supporters are also under control. Clearly, not all oppressors have "repressive" personality, and not all suppressed people have "suppressed" personality. Relationship of oppressor. Nevertheless, I believe that psychodynamics and social expectations of participants will lead to resistance to their sustainability and change in a longstanding repressive relationship.

Abuse - One element of the masochism interaction is the elimination of masochism choice, enabling both masochism and sadism in a relatively shameless mind state. These choices, the axis of shame and the spiritual strength are particularly related to gay experience. This article will explore three episodes of these elements: the Garden of Eden, the crucifixion of Jesus, and the Inquisition. From this point on, this article explains whether homosexuality is intentional, whether they are ashamed of these arguments, and whether they are configured to influence homosexuality of people who have no choice from the perspective of sexual orientation To do. This heuristic submission analyzes each of these backgrounds in theology and politics.