What makes people keep doing the same wrong thing over and over when they know it's wrong?

Everyone knows what to do, but it is still the opposite. So let 's let us smoke to simplify. They know the debilitating effect of smoking, they read labels, but they still draw another tobacco. Another example is a person trying to lose weight. We all know how to lose weight. However, we still use extra big mac super meals. Right? Understanding this level does not change anything. So, how do you change your behavior?

You have to enter a new level .. Understanding the next level is an understanding of the emotional level.

So now you are affected at an emotional level. This is where the smoker goes to see the doctor. "Listen, you really need to quit.You can make a stroke and smoke." Or when your child tells you the thing that when you graduate you are there I hope that I can do it. "Now that's true, now your cigarette is gone.

You have not learned anything new, you still understand the same mistake, but understand that you are doing an emotional understanding now. Now, this allows you to change your behavior, but that does not allow you to make permanent changes. So what do you do now? With me

Why are vegetarians not eating meat? Is it because of different teeth? Is it because the digestive system is different? Of course not, this is because their identity is "I am vegetarian". Therefore, unless you transfer your identity at this level, you will always return to the original action. Because our behavior is not our identity but ours.

Let's return to our favorite small smoker. If he decides to resign, he is likely to resume. His identity has now shifted to "I am a smoker who quits smoking," so if you want to give him a cigarette, he is now demonstrating his will. "I am a smoker but I tried to avoid it as I gave up." The problem is that the power of will is limited. You can hang around the edge of the cliff as you like, but you will not be able to see it even if you come back tomorrow. you are

So how do you change your identity? You must understand what kind of person you want to be. Therefore, it is even easier if a smoker is called "I am not a smoker", it is even easier ... Now if someone gives you a cigarette, if you do not have the will, that is very easy .. ... "I do not smoke." It was not early ... "I gave up, I am about to quit now"

Therefore, to make changes, you need to change your identity. You will change your current identity, transfer your identity to the person you want to act on and act according to this action.

Rebooting is not a bad thing. This may be the best movement you ever made, especially when you know in your mind that you did the wrong way. As you continue doing the same thing to comfort and fear change, we make the wrong direction even more complicated. Several of the most successful people we know today are beginning - all of this is different. Jonah Peretti began teaching high school computer science for many years since the mid-1990s. He continued to learn and decided to try new things. He graduated from Massachusetts Institute of Technology, grew up and began to learn new ideas. He made great progress in a very strange way - he sent a friend an email about lively exchanges with the Nike staff and appeared on NBC's Today show

Face it; they all do the same wrong thing. The crazy part is that I saw myself (including myself) making the same mistake. Most importantly, we tried to do a fair degree to the wrong things and did not try anything right. The problem is that we do not know the difference between good and evil. If you make your girl happy and want to bring her flower every day, but she hates the flowers, this is not feasible. So you do not only do the wrong things, but also use time, energy, and money to do the wrong things. In order to make something that does not go well you work really hard. It is like paying other people and repeatedly hitting your face.