What everyone gets wrong about single moms | Opinion

Do you want to explain why and how the US derailed? It is not an easy way to represent the traditional family death of social collapse, and the negative consequences of American children. There is no data point exceeding the number of single mothers.

This is a familiar complaint that became annoying, especially from last week's pastor Jasper Williams. In honor of losing Aretha Franklin, the pastor criticized a single mother like Franklin and called a single parent family "abortion after birth". (Williams seems to have a special discontent about his son 's single mother, he said he can not make a boy at all into a man.

However, the most common use - the loss of stability of fathers and parents - showing the number of mothers who nurture a child alone - has not actually been shown.

According to US census data, most American children continue to live with their parents' families, but the number of parent families most commonly used to quantify the number of single mothers is It has almost tripled since 1960. (Of course, there is one father, but the number is far greater than a single mother, so I never saw them being criticized by social collapse.)

A single parent family numbered in the census is a family whose unmarried parents live with or adopt a child.

None of this implies that other parents are bound by being absent. Instead of using these indicators as a parent's waiver, you can import conclusions into nonexistent data.

Can parents who divorce sharing custody appear in the life of a child? According to the census, this is a single parent household.

A pair of long-married unmarried couples living together with children in biology? Single parent family

Alicia Guevara - Warren, childhood in Michigan states: Project Director

That is why it is important to get qualitative data - she said - to learn more about people's life experiences. "People are annoying and we often do not fit in the box, so that's why we make this important part qualitative."

This is not a matter of census, its purpose is to quantify. The problem is that those who use a simple measure of marital status and primary custody should be able to derive comprehensive conclusions about family relationships, people involved, and their meanings, and to solve social problems diagnosed with wrong tools It is to define.

The majority of children living in a single parent family (three quarters) are not living in poverty, but over 25% of the children living alone in their parent families are much higher than their married parents.

This is a single mother's misunderstanding. Attacking single mothers or single jane parents seems to have solved the real problem faced by their parents - solving these problems means keeping us troubled.

Do not get me wrong, my family is just as wonderful as any other person. I grew up in a different family, my mother is doing the work of two parents and raising three children. My grandmother and grandfather also played a big part to make everything I did with my brothers and sisters to be great people. From a very young age I knew my family composition was different, but from that point of view it was not shown to me. On the contrary, this is commonplace. When get up at 5 o'clock in the morning and get off at grandparents' house, my mother can go to work on time and school choice will be improved. Let's have dinner while we got off at our grandparents at 5 pm and wait for us to get off work. My family does not seem to be the same - if there is, I am always lucky to receive support from many people.

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