What does it feel like to be "popular" in high school?

Is a lovely girl striking you at the party? She is not really interested. Perhaps she just wants to be recognized at school. Maybe she just wants a popular guy (actually it happened several weeks ago). Is it really difficult for this old friend to ignite friendship from anywhere? He does not really care about your lifestyle and lifestyle. He just wants to be popular. Maybe, perhaps he probably wants you to gain support for you in the next student election (this actually happened when I was a junior)

I used to joke with my friends once that if you legitimately hit people on campus it might be communicated to others as a kind of joke. My reputation is in front of my school. I can escape for murder because of my kindness, compassion and helpful reputation.

But that is awkward - please judge based on your reputation rather than your personality. It is appreciated to those places I have a clean condition (such as summer camp) and can make friends based on the way I am alone, not based on the way others see me .

I understand - as a human being, we are selfish and we are not interested in others like ourselves. But this effect will be magnified when you are popular. You are often seen as a tool from others - to get satisfaction. As an introduction to her future career network. As a way for him to enter the party. Stepping stone as another goal

On the other hand, Phoebe is right - popularity is great and horrible. It feels irritating and frustrating for everyone to feel the pressure and to feel the need to maintain high standards.

After all, popularity is a social construct, nothing more. It does not define you. It does not change your identity. You are still you when you enter the bed at night. Of course, I am grateful from the bottom of my heart. I really appreciate how to escape by saying stupid things. I really appreciate that someone leaning against me and want to talk. I appreciate these things, but I understand that they do not define me. Excessive popularity is due to excessive trouble

Richard Bach's word accurately reflects my emotions on popularity and the impact it has on me. "I am not the one that impresses the world, my existence is to live to make me happy."

However, I am happy to accept it if I am happy as a by-product of my life byproduct.

I remember thinking about what was very popular in high school. High school has a group of good friends but I do not trade with this world, but I still remember feelings when I wanted to be a member of that group. Especially popular girls have a chance to date. I think I've seen it, but I can see the negative side of this "strong" emotion. Let me be clear, I do not think my patient wants to go out with me, but I sometimes think I am friendly.

It feels good, is not it? How wonderful it is if you are the most popular person at your high school. Indeed, social media has become a high school in the world, but regardless of whether it is realized or not, we all have such a moment. Psychologists like me are really interested in this feeling, and what we find is that when we are in social media, part of the brain makes us feel better. This is part of what we have been helping us since we were born, but from around the age of 11, whenever we think that we are very popular, it becomes extreme. This is the reason why secondary schools begin to look bad for our parents and may be the reason to start to care about what other children think about us. Our brain has changed, and we are very excited by the enthusiasm of our colleagues.

So we often follow the opinions of others. We taught the same thing in the same way through primary school and high school, and like everyone else. Everyone think that it is suitable for the crowd, it is gentle and popular. But what unique value will it bring to the world? Are you really glad you do not like yourself? What Aurelius implies is that life is constantly unique and is a battle to think about yourself. People who follow the crowd become ordinary and normal. But those who love their own identity and who share it with the world will be much better. They are very happy and really live peacefully with ourselves, so we offer unique values ​​to the world that can not be like other people.