The Fatal Grudge

"I decided to send Ad Patres (Spanish" Father ") to a feminist who destroyed my life" - Marp Lepine, suicide note. It is a night on December 6, 1989, 19 days before Christmas. When a stranger enters the engineering building, students at the Montreal Institute of Technology have just completed their course. Like a sadistic Santa, he has a Sturm Ruger Mini - 14 automatic rifle, knife, and ammo strap. The stranger is Marc Lepine. At the end of the day, he will die with 14 women; leave a suicide memo to condemn the feminist.

"We know our intuition is not impaired, we know who we are - '' 'people, a licensed social worker Nancy Collier wrote today at the Psychological Society. This identity provides a definition and purpose consciousness for suffering victims, but it is difficult to release because it requires a new identity that is not so simple to define. Resentment increases stress hormone cortisol and lowers "love hormone" oxytocin. Then grab the resentment, create a high stress and low stress feedback loop, and when someone dislikes it someone will carry it with you. It may feel bad for some people, but it is still superior to vulnerability

First of all, resentment has an identity. Our intuition is not impaired, we know who we are - "grievance" people. I do not like it, but this identity has rights and power. There is something that defines us, anger and victim. It gives us a feeling of solidity and purpose. There is a definition, complaining about weight. In order to get rid of our indignation, we have no strength, firmness, or potential empathy and understanding we gain as "complaints" of our identity and through our "grievance" status I have to give up. We have to give up on the abused "I" and be willing to enter our own new version.

To ask for indignation and revenge is not an appropriate response to misunderstanding. Resentment makes resentment violently destroy indignation with indignant people; revenge only escalates hostility. Jesus tells us that we have to part with our opponents, forgive their transcendence, and have to give up the anger that may urge us to retaliate. If I join this rule, even if you are just mad, even at your own home, you told you that there is a risk of being judged! If you call your friend a fool you may be taken before the court. If you curse him, you will be at risk of the fire of hell. (TLB, Matthew 5: 21-22)