The 9 Rules for True Apologies

For over 20 years, I am studying people apologizing - and I can not give them. But you do not need to become an expert on this topic to recognize a bad apology that makes you feel depressed.

This is the nine basic elements of a true apology. Next time when you need to apologize - or apologize on the receiving side of the apology - remember these guidelines

For example, "Sorry, what you said at the party last night made you feel bad", this is not an apology. "I am sorry for what I said at the party last night, it is sensitive and unnecessary." We accept your behavior and apologize for this.

It is not always ashamed of their own pain and regret, but focusing on acknowledging the feelings of injured people.

Maybe you have only 14% responsibility, perhaps others are provoking you. Still, I can help say simply "I am sorry for this part of mine".

If your sister stated that you paid for a recent dinner, apologize and let me know that you are planning to pay for the next few dinner.

Obviously, the apology did not help the apology, then continued your apology. If you do not try hard in order to confirm that there is no reproduction, passionate expression of regret is sky.

A true apology should not silence others ("I am sorry at least ten times, why do you mention this?")

Apologies should also not be used as a quick way to solve difficult conversations and disputes.

If it is possible to make the injured party worse, you should not provide a real apology to make you feel better

Not all apologies are welcomed. Makeup may be part of your recovery process, but if another person does not want to hear you, please find another way of healing

If you want a correct apology - or if you suffer from absences or bad apologies from having hurt your defensive friends and family - see why you do not apologize? : I will thank you in advance for your relationship to heal great betrayal and daily damage.

It is sincere. This is the basic principle of apology. An immoral apology is somewhat worse than no apology. Damage to your attack by this person is exacerbated only by their wrong anger against you. A hypocritical apology may take the form that you are sorry, but because your repentance is obviously obvious it does so. Another form is famous for apologizing "I am sorry for you," I am sorry. I apologize that this apology has no problem, but I am sorry that this person is still hurting or angry and still important to you. Do not mind, it will make this person want to stab you in Trident

I'm really sorry? If the answer is 'no', you should not apologize because your apology is completely dishonest. An immoral apology is worse than not having an apology; not only is it clear that you are sorry for the first action, but a false apology is that you are stupid enough for people to believe fake apologies It means what you think. Congratulations, you showed yourself like a big butt. Are you sorry mainly for yourself or others? This is a classic "Are you sorry for messing up or are you caught?" This is your apology if your relationship is your reputation, your position, and your identity It means that it may reflect this. In this case, I have your message: Your apology will be called "Your rest are united and sorry", I promise you that you are not so good.

I should start with an apology. After November 9th, everything got confused and strange, I forgot to write. No, it is not. I'm scared. I did not intend to write a letter to you after you passed the September 11 incident, but since I graduated last month, I think that I should at least give you the latest news about my life I will. I graduated with honor and I got a degree in economics. I accepted MBA from Harvard in the fall so now I am packing my apartment and preparing to move to Massachusetts. I am engaged in a good girl named Kate. She is an artist. Her work is mainly called "voluntary media". That is to throw the paint on the canvas, then wrap the used aluminum can into a nail and hang it on the window. I love her, she is good, but I do not always get her art.