The 350-year-old trick to get people to change their mind

Everyone knows how irritated you are when you discuss with someone, and you just know what is right, but others just refuse to see things around you I will.

At some point, we are these people, one trying to convince the other that you are right.

According to my experience, this is a typical situation, usually the two sides end up getting angry and crying.

But there are very old tricks - in fact, 350 years - clearly can be used so that everyone can change his mind

You may have heard about Blaise Pascal, a French philosopher, inventor, physicist and mathematician of the 17th century, and if he is not enough he will ask you to I made a convenient reminder to agree. Your opinion

Pascal is far ahead of psychology thinking and I write this hot tip for his book Pensees.

"When we want to make positive corrections and want to show the opponent that the other has made a mistake, we must pay attention to the aspect he is looking at. It was wrong to clarify He was satisfied with this as he thought he was not wrong, he just did not see all sides, "Pascal wrote.

"Now that he is not looking at everything, not everyone is injured, but I do not want to be misunderstood, people can not see everything in nature and we can not see everything in our senses Recognition is always the same, so make a mistake. "

The most effective way to let others change your mind is to tell them that their argument is right and then to point out the mistake.

Because people are usually very defensive if they say directly that they are wrong, this person is more likely to accept other perspectives by taking a more gentle approach.

"People are usually fascinated by the reason for discovering themselves, they are not already in the hearts of other people," Pascal wrote.

Changing their thoughts will be much easier if you do not tell them directly that someone has found errors in their argument.

Now, this is not the only thing that philosophers have said for centuries that we are no longer applicable to us.

Pascal's advice is still relevant today, according to Arthur Marman, a psychology professor at the University of Texas at Austin.

"The first thing you have to do to make someone change their mind is to lower their defenses and prevent reaching out where they gave up," Marman told SBS It was.

"If you start talking to me all the ways that you are wrong soon you do not have the motivation to cooperate, but if I start to say, 'Oh, you are here I think that these are important.The problem is, "Now, you give the opponent the reason to work together as part of the exchange.This makes you cooperate Give you the opportunity to express your concern about your position in a way to do. "

Therefore, old Pascal tricks are helpful when you encounter situations that need to change someone's mood next time.

"Curry, calm down, your things are a bit of a trick caused by sleeping," he said in a known tone. "Some people call it The Old Hag, it happens to people all over the world, it's just a story that explains the fact that your imagination is ashamed for a while." I hugged him I left. He does not understand. Things took away some of mine. It took my mind. Spiders know what I did not, and I may never know when a spider is visible. I am sorry for opening up to him now, afraid of my fears. I got up and moved to the kitchen to stay away from him and his laugh.

We all hear and see the old trick "Pencil falls to the floor" and let cute little girls and boys pick it up. I think about this when I think that this is not intentional or intentional. As I get older, however, I often think and understand what I am doing in an accident, or stumble over what ultimately will achieve a greater purpose. I should now put someone who has faith in me. I firmly believe that God and the universe are created with his spoken words. Therefore, from a bigger perspective, I think there are no accidents in other respects. Our limited thinking is that we do not understand this until "accident" moves long distances, and then many people can not wake up to realize this.