After reading this article, the author wants to say that ruining your child is not good for your child. Parents should not love their children too much. They need to give the children more self-sufficiency and support and to let them learn how to succeed and fail. In this article, parents say that children are luxurious and humorous about their children, so that children can not learn how to achieve their goals in life and that children can not feel success or failure. They do not know the true meaning of their lives.
To indulge in raising children basically destroys children. It promotes self-centeredness, selfishism, behavioral problems (Santrock, 2012). Ironically, some parents choose this style of parents to develop children's creativity and self-confidence. However, because there is no structure, it is often that this type of child rearing can not achieve the desired results. Steinberg (2000) stated that "participation in the lives of parents' children is most important, if not the most important, being a contributor to the child's healthy psychological development, There is a possibility of getting involved in more problems in their lives "(36). Steinberg clarified his position, pointed out that negative child rearing is a risk factor and not an obvious cause of juvenile delinquency. The way he is mentioned is called indifference or negligent parenting, which is where parents are not fundamentally in their children's lives.
People complain about children who were spoiled and raised, but the children have little power to their parents. This is especially true for children with NPD parents, as they are very aware of the unpredictability, implicit threats, and intense anger shown by their parents. In the early years of life, children learn to "avoid and conceal" by constantly healing the simple thoughts of the parents of NPD (as the breeze changes). Since the parents of NPD are the hero of the general "fake face", even if children talk to someone other than their family about their ill parents, no one is afraid to hear or believe it. Secondly, the children are afraid that their complaints will come back to the parents of the NPD. Parents are subject to high fines.