Resolving Personal Conflicts Through Assertive Communication

Introduction "Conflict is a problematic situation that arises among people seeking different goals or those seeking a means to achieve interdependence (Cahn & Abigail, 2014), one of the characteristics of conflict The sense that it is urgent to solve the difference is another feature of conflict: conflicts occur in various places such as workplace, friends, parents, children, but in the most difficult field of conflict One is love.

Collisions between friends can be solved. It takes a long time to solve the conflict of friendship. From time to time, in order to solve the conflict of friendship, we must solve the inner conflict and overcome the fears against them. An example of a novel is when the gene is discussing on its own about how Finni tells what she did. You can resolve conflicts only if two people acknowledge the conflict and intend to resolve the conflict. In friendship, a person must accept the pros and cons of a friend. If you can not accept the pros and cons of your friends, you can not have many friends. An example of a novel is that Finny is more academically accepting a better way than Gene than Gene and he accepts the fact that Gene is not as good at track and field as Finny.

There are many ways that you can solve the conflict between factions people are fighting. There may be only two of these combat factions, or they may be large people like the country. But will the dispute resolution not work in either case? One or more people should decide on the best way to solve specific conflicts. We can assume a model of double interest, that is, an attempt is made to try to balance between interests in others and concern for themselves. On the other hand, he may confidently choose to complete the task in his own way. On the other hand, he may be considerate and choose to do things in ways that others feel what he should do.

Conflict Behavior This is important to how we feel each other and whether conflicts are truly resolved. John Gottman, psychologist, has studied couple communication and interaction in detail. His goal is to predict divorce and unity based on couple communication, especially during conflict. After several minutes of interaction observation, Gottman can predict 82% accuracy against divorce. Gottman developed a model of collision behavior that shows pain in relationships. He named the model "the Fourth Knights of the Apocalypse", which included criticism, contempt, defense, and disturbance. Criticism is complaining each other and accusing them. It is also not a specific criticism of the subject, but also a global statement about human values ​​and virtues.