Offended? Say Hello to Your Ego! - Terri Cole

This week 's Tune Up Tip is called "Got Ego", but in fact it can be called "how powerful you are".

"I can not believe what this person said to me", "That man is apologizing to me", or "I am very angry that they are thinking about it" It is. Is it?

First of all, let's see what is a crime. This is your self reaction to others. When you are offended, you are in a state of self-motivation, and eventually are in the loss of power and the psychological state of the victim. Your ego and self belong to one of these categories as a way to deal with the loss of empowerment.

High self-starvation and thirst; self-absorption; Focus on external images; require verification from others; condemn / condemn others to promote self

Low self - inability, interdependence, loss / confusion, behavior as a martyr, never feeling inappropriate, excessive worry, always being suspicious of self, beating himself

Interestingly, high and low self are two sides of the same coin. Neither tries to look outside for verification, pay attention too much to the images they describe, accuse others and never be satisfied, to their real self I will turn my eyes. According to your reaction, a person who is offended may fall into your high and low self. If your answer is "Who do you think is? I should apologize," you tend to like self-reactivity very much. "If you say," Why did the person came to pick me up, I did something to them ", you tend to react to your own low self. Since neither is a healthy functional response, let's re-frame.

The way to feel sick is to understand that you can not control others, but you can control your response and react to other people's words and actions.

At the end of the day, the thought of others is not important. In your life, what matters is your thought.

I advise you to tell your truth and tell others "I do not like that kind of communication" or "I think we can communicate in a less hostile manner" .

This week (all seven days), when someone makes you angry, no matter what it talks to you or talking to you, your direct reaction records something, you react I will check if I can step back one step without doing it.

This is what you think about you. As long as you think that you are worthy and wonderful, you do not need to be offended. Let's waste valuable time and energy, let criminals manage it

Does your self interfere with your relationship? Do you easily make people angry? If you are vulnerable to an attack or are hurt by another party, you are in the wrong area. The best sales are warm enough so that their ego does not disturb the relationship. They do not anger others and do not feel bothered easily. What is the best difference between general salesperson and salesperson? Answer: Please convey your emotions. Selling and buying science and trading arts Anyone can learn science and sell it step by step, but only natural sales representatives can change science to art for a long time.

First of all, let's see what is a crime. This is your self reaction to others. When you are offended, you are in a state of self-motivation, and eventually are in the loss of power and the psychological state of the victim. Your self or self will belong to one of these categories to deal with the loss of empowerment. Interestingly, high self and low self are both sides of the same coin. Neither tries to look outside for verification, pay attention too much to the images they describe, accuse others and never be satisfied, to their real self I will turn my eyes. According to your reaction, a person who is offended may fall into your high and low self. If your answer is "Who do you think is? I should apologize," you tend to like self-reactivity very much. If you say "Why do you go to me, what did I do for them," you tend to respond with a lower self.