My first girlfriend has emailed me after 20 years and I'm in turmoil

When I was 19 years old, I had my first girlfriend. It lasted three years, which was very painful for me. I was depressed so I left the country to overcome her. That was twenty years ago. I am still living overseas, marrying a child, and doing my own business. But I never forgot the woman who broke my heart I guess I never stopped loving her.

I received her e - mail a few weeks ago. She said she saw my name on Facebook from "ordinary friend", and from curiosity he decided to contact. I experienced terrible confusion in the last few weeks. Does she still have feelings on me? Because I know that there are few people in the UK, we can not have "common friends". Why do you think so? I know that I may have fallen in love with the shadow, but it tore me.

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I wrote an email to a pen pal in the UK for an hour. Six months later, I have a girlfriend - I am a friend of my Korean friend. A year later, she and I will take a day off in London. I first met my penpal. With my girl friend's encouragement, I am going to spend the day with her. I can see that my Korean friend made my girlfriend. I deserve to protect it unless I fell in love with her If I fell in love with her I would not be worth keeping. I have never fallen in love with my Internet pen companions or have fallen in love. However, we both want to have a lot of sexual relations with each other. Each of us can read this wish at the moment we meet. We are still young. We have never seen each other's pictures. We first met online in 1996. Sending my photo to someone on the Internet in 1996 was a difficult task. We also know everything about everyone we know.

This is my second year, I saw many of my best friends, and a beautiful girl has established a good relationship, I want that. I will be completely honest with you, I remember being a child of my college and my early twenties ... I am a hot girlfriend (or any girlfriend, but an ideal enthusiasm) I wanted. It weighs 130 kg along with Africans. Then I have my own moment. I clearly remember what I was working in the shrimp farm when I saw the mirror in my university holiday and said "What are you doing?" The conversation continues ... "You are wasting the best year of your life, and if you continue this method, you will die at the age of 40"