Love: Selfish or Selfless?

Saint Paul said: "Now we see the darkness through the glass; and we are face to face: now I know the part; but I know even knowing." (Bible: Gideon arrangement , 1 Corinthians 13: 12). When I look in the mirror, I can see that person's true figure. Because seeing reflexes is to examine the soul of that person. Self-realization shows selfish or selfless love in your mind. For centuries today, love is described as one of the best feelings on the planet. And this feeling brings joy and broken heart.

At this point, many of us have committed the mistake of "self-love" as "selfishness", so people always want to talk about self-love, self-love and self-centeredness to me is. Actually, it is not. On the contrary, selfish people always lack true self love and over compensate. Love is all or not - we can not love someone at our expense (either our partner or us). Love is not such a feeling. Love is built on ourselves, all of us are connected. We can build relationships with our heart only when we love ourselves and caring for our own needs (without using others).

People are complex networks of kindness, love, selfishness, and aggression. Enabling the opposite coexistence is the essence of the dialectic. Individuals are not selfless or selfish, they are selfless and selfish. Our political realm includes progress and return. DBT insists that mental health needs to accept and change the paradox. In the dynamic and evolving process, we accept current and transformation goals. By accepting contradictions, paradoxes, gray shadows, you can increase the overall flexibility. We will reduce anger when the environment does not meet our harsh expectations.

We do not live in a world that is not selfish. We are not selfless, neither of us. But how selfish are we? Are we selfish enough to focus only on our needs and satisfaction or do you think you can afford to allow others for their needs and for whimsical reasons? Are we involved in the whirlpool of desire or do you believe in respecting others? The most important thing is what constitutes selfish or selfless. Does selflessness be directed completely to the other side, it needs to be a person who disappears in the shadow of the opponent and pay attention only to the partner's needs? Or just go and fix it at the right time to balance between the two worlds.