I blamed my wife for our messy house, I was wrong for many reasons

When a girl from a neighbor of a 4 year old daughter's friend approached me, "I just saw it at your house, it's dirty, the wild mother needs to clean more."

I am convinced that my growth and childhood are part of that reason. I grew up in a troublesome and troubling house - I am working hard, and the single mother being emphasized is too overwhelmed to keep the house clean and neat. In this case, I will not blame her for that situation, and now what I see is that she is not used to confusion; in fact it suits her. Whatever the case, I am like this, and I accepted this. I do not say that I own the best house. I confused my child. I gave them a playground, and every item in their bedroom was excavated and played. I asked them to draw a picture; assemble things like blocks, dirt, and even dirt. I asked them to cook with me and send the flour to the kitchen floor.

In most cases, we condemn everything, not myself, as lazy. My house is so noisy that I can not learn. My father did not let me see TV, so I watched TV late at night. My wife is late for lunch and I will be late. You can not overcome laziness and delay without taking responsibility. You must be able to say "I am responsible." Yes, external factors are affected. Even if you overcome these factors, you can overcome laziness. If your house is noisy, please find a quiet place to study. If you do not have the chance to watch TV, you can skip the TV one day. If your wife is late, please skip lunch or breakfast. You can manage it on the way. You have to solve your problem

When my wife could not regain my young son from the country I was born, I gave up everything to keep our family together. I regained my role as a problem solver. I bought and sold the house, the economic loss was heavy, it affected my career, I left my community, gave up my green cards and became involved with complicated and expensive international tax scenes It was. I hope my family is together, but I do not want all of this. I took the action I thought was "right". I thought that I was a "good" husband. I thought that I should 'put' my family first.