How to Support Someone Who Self-Harms

Finding self-harm of friends and relatives can be very frustrating. Often I experience a series of emotions such as shock, anger, sadness, confusion, guilt feeling.

In order to support self-harming people in a comprehensible and understandable way, it is helpful to understand why people do self-harm and some useful strategies before providing support . Useful materials are as follows

It is very important to be seriously injured. Self-traumatizing people explain their behavior as a way to deal with overwhelming feelings related to difficult or painful experiences. For some people it becomes addictive, makes you feel better, and you can regain control of their emotions. It is seldom used as "attracting attention", and most self-hurting people keep secrets and try to be extremely embarrassed

Self-damages usually express specific things about insiders, ask about their feelings, and try to explore the problem. If this person does not want to talk to you, make sure you want to hear and see where others can get support.

"Look at the individual rather than the injury, see the people outside the scar. The scar is not important.The people who do these injuries are important."

It may be difficult for a person to stop self-injury, which can take a long time to complete. If people are saying they want to stop, it may be useful to discuss ways to gradually reduce the damage. Health care workers claim that this damage is kept to a minimum or that the extent and frequency of self-injurious behavior is reduced. The most important thing here is that this person needs to find a different way to eliminate emotions.

Let your people injured want you to listen to them and want to hear how they feel they can be ready and talk

Even if you do not understand or feel they are hard to accept what they are doing, respect them as they sympathize and talk to you when they discuss it.

Do not do the last pass like "You must go out if you do not stop self-trauma." This was useless, it will not work

To understand that stopping self-injury is a long and difficult journey. It is only when somebody gets ready and is ready to do so to stop self-injurious behavior.

If you need to speak with someone, please use our conversation page. The trained companion will listen to your question in a thoughtful and non-judgmental way. You can talk with them anonymously and completely with confidence.

The following links provide more information on how to support self-injurious behavior. If you need help, please click on the link "Support required".

There are also charity organizations that can support you through this experience and self-help groups in the UK. Self-traumatizing people say that it may be useful to listen to other young people who experienced self-injurious behavior. Please refer to the last part of this manual for details of these support information. I have always been confident. I learned to stay more open to my emotions. I feel like they were stopped before they knew. Without telling a lie, I could explain and understand what I was doing away from myself without hiding what I did. I know that someone will support me, so I should be ashamed of it anymore.

A popular myth about self-harming is that people do this to attract attention. According to this logic, you can think that self-injured people and suicide people can be identified naturally. Most studies do not support this view. Only about half of the young people who are causing self-injurious behavior open this behavior to everyone. Young people often do their best to hide self-injurious behavior. Recognizing self-injurious behavior and suicidal ideation is very difficult. People may be concerned about negative reactions or may be afraid that information spreads out without their consent. Some young people may not think their behavior is a problem. Self-trauma is often a way to try to deal with overwhelming feelings, and some people may feel this strategy is "effective".

People define self-injurious behavior in various ways. Self-trauma practice is usually defined as a person who deliberately hurts himself and does not want to die. It is sometimes called intentional self-injury or non-suicidal self-injury. Self-scarring may not mean that someone wants to die. This is an act used to deal with difficult or painful emotions. Self-injurious behavior is more common. According to the survey, about 1% of Australians suffer self injuries last month and about 8% suffer self injuries in their lifetime. Most people start self-injury among teenagers and young people. It can last a long time, it will be a custom that is difficult to quit