How to Get Your Child to Listen

Children's selective hearing is an important cause of parental depression. A provocative child who refuses cooperation stubbornly and ignores a simple request may make it feel like a hard struggle every day. Clinical psychologist Dr. Victoria Samuel advises parents who want to improve their communication with their children.

As a parent, the pressure to change what you have to do is sometimes hard to hear. But when feeling that a child is not listening, they are more likely to suffocate, cry, or lose a mood to catch your attention.

Listening carefully indicates that you respect the feelings of your child, explore problems, and often provide them with space to find their own solutions. Listening leads to emotions that are difficult to remove - the secret to reduce convulsions, reduce mood, and reduce tears. Most importantly, if you listen to your child, they are more likely to listen to you.

I concentrated. Stop what you are doing, turn your eyes to your children, make eye contacts, and listen to their opinions

There are a lot of things behind what your child says (or even if they do not talk about it, even how they act). Find and name your feelings

It is important to deny them to accept emotions and resist temptation to make things better ("Oh, there is no reason to feel so uneasy")

For your child to listen carefully, think about how you communicate. Whether your child adjusts music, the nuances of language, health and body language may affect

When a limit is indicated, the sound is determined and confident. Hint of uncertainty, you are likely to be ignored, argument (but "please, I can not do ..."), or stumble ("This is too unfair")

Please avoid embarrassment. Once asked, please firmly, please take action. If you repeat yourself many times before you take action, your child will learn to ignore your initial request.

Always be lowered to the height of the child and please touch it. An older adult may feel fear than a child

Please use clear commands and observe short requirements. Please limit important words to some (eg "8 o'clock before bedtime").

Avoid accusations ("I have never heard!"), Criticize ("You are so lazy"), or intimidate ("If you are not in a hurry, I will leave you").

For some children, "no" can be in the default position when asked to do something. This is a few suggestions for encouraging your children to work together.

Praise all signs of cooperation with warmth and enthusiasm. Please use the star chart to motivate your child to do their daily work such as waking up, brushing, dressing

Share game skills: If you are tired of listening to the same old quarrel among your children, encourage you to share team skills for some teamwork

Participation skills: Let children be able to enjoy housework and shopping (and also you!)

Family's daily routine: As seen in the Super Nanny Show, setting a family's daily routine can help your family use the time more efficiently.

This article draws out some of the strategies outlined in this useful book: How to talk, children listen, and listen, so the children speak to Fazer and Mazlish

To speak is a good thing, but when talking to children it is important to listen. Start a conversation, let the child talk, listen to what they want to say. Children may not be able to express themselves clearly, so you should pay attention to the words they use and nonverbal clues. Not only should you listen, your children will know that they are listened and taken seriously. I acknowledge what they said and answer to let them know that you understand what they are saying. If you do not understand, please clarify the question. But please be careful not to talk too much, do not ask too much.

Listen to what the child says. Let your child know what is wrong. Pay attention, patience, openness and attention, listen quietly. Avoid judgment, accusation, speech and impulses to say what you think your child should do. The idea is to listen to your child's attention (and emotions). Please ask questions such as "what happened then" and understand the whole story. Please come slowly. Let your child have time. Please comment briefly about what your child is experiencing. For example, you might say "You must be distracting". "You might get angry if you do not try to participate in the game" or "This must be unreasonable." Doing so indicates that you understand your child's feelings, reasons, and your concerns. Understanding and listening can help your child feel your support, which is particularly important when emphasizing