How do I keep my opinions to myself?

I think that this is the idea of ​​all or nothing. "When I say my own idea, I anger people, so I will not say what I think." Just because the conversation method does not succeed, this means that the opposite is the answer It is not. Please note the black and white logic of that polarization. It limits the options you have and prevents you from developing a broader tool for dealing with social situations.

Perhaps you are experiencing that you were listening to the same reactions to all kinds of people in various situations. People may not feel they are listening when you listen to the reaction. Even if they agree with your opinion, they may not notice what they are offering is not what they want. But give yourself some leeway: you can not read the thoughts of others. Please do not ask for advice immediately.

This is a difficult part: please listen to it. To listen requires practice. In psychology there is a term called "active listening". This means that you use technology as part of the audience rather than shedding the words you listen to one ear and shedding in the other's ear.

Do they just want to put something on their chest? "You really need to ventilate, are not you?"

Return it to the speaker: Do not hijack the conversation by talking about the same situation you are until the speaker completes the uninstall

Avoid "fixing" mentality. We are often offering advice as people talking to us are dissatisfied with certain things and hope to solve them as soon as possible. This will put pressure on the speaker and destroy the essence of the conversation.

Please check the spokesperson. If possible, please wear your shoes and make sure you can imagine how they feel. If they are talking about something you have never experienced, tell them

Please relax. You do not have to always provide something. Remember, your friends started to talk to you. Sometimes your existence is enough. Just to make you part of that moment

Keeping your own opinion is especially challenging if you think you are direct and frank. But we are people because it is a habitual collection. No one is always in one direction. You will benefit from rebuilding your self image. "I am direct and frank," rather than "I am open and confident." In addition to the custom you already have, this will get you used to customs, which will help you become more adaptive in social situations.

I am always a person who makes things closer to myself, not a person who expresses them. While protecting my own feelings and opinions, I was an introverted person throughout my life. Therefore, the idea of ​​writing on a public platform becomes distracting. But I still stick to it and start this journey to express myself. This blog asked me to write an unreadable article about bad music and lack of sleep at the gym. In the present situation, I can explain a variety of things happening in my daily life consciously. It helps to improve my communication skills, my writing skills, and most importantly it brings hidden extroversion. This extroverts, which is talking about so many things, is a shy creature that is approaching his nearest friend. But now, through this blog he has a platform to express myself. And now he is more confident and hopes to have more channels to share his voice.

I wanted to write this article for a long time, but I always quitted before I actually started typing. The main reason is that I do not like expressing my opinion in such a public place so much, but recently, I am frankly speaking, human foolishness can not maintain this level It is said that it reached the level. That's right. As you can see from the title, I am talking about block chains. Yes, you are listening to it, unless you have lived in rock 'n roll for the past few years - even then, I think you've heard it already. But does the problem really know what it is? If you are an ordinary Joe, even if you are a software engineer, it is very likely that you have zero or near-zero knowledge of what it is.