Please forgive but do not forget - there is a personal story, he is standing at the door of our house, a stranger to me and my mother, his shadow is approaching. His face, sorrow and loneliness faced the fact that my mother cried her chair sitting there, as she was doing it for many years night. On his right hand, a black suitcase with "RAF" badge is in another briefcase. A black hat was locked in his armpit. He is a good wrinkle-free person wearing a black suit, the bottom is a white shirt of necktie and pearl.
Dr. Charlotte van Oyen Witt Briett, Associate Professor of Psychology at Hope College, says: "Forgiveness does not include literal oblivion, forgiveness contains a generous memory, forgiveness remembers the painful part of forgiveness, but there is no worship of adjectives and adverbs causing insults." Heart rate is getting faster, the eyebrows are nervous, negative emotions are rising, "she said. "In contrast, forgiving reactions can cause calm emotions and physical reactions, it seems that tolerance can lead to emotional and physical costs.
To forgive is one of the most difficult things. Sometimes it is not enough to forgive people. We have to forgive them until we feel a true inside. Resentment leaves you when you really forgive someone. Do not forget their behavior, you see it from a different perspective. I know from experience that forgiveness can be a process. You may need to forgive someone about 20 actions at once. This is a personal journey. Dealing with pain is very important and can be very uncomfortable. If you can not handle the pain correctly, it will surface when it is most inconvenient. Dealing with pain means facing pain and telling yourself the complete truth about the influence your actions have on you. Let's be honest with ourselves without minimizing the impact of action. If we are not honest with ourselves, who can handle it honestly?
Forgiveness is a free custom. I like the phrase "I forgive but never forget". This means to let go. Release me, I release myself from the bondage of anger and hatred. I will remove these nonsense. I guarantee you that you will remember the lessons you learned and will never forget the pain you endure in learning, but you must forgive yourself. You do not need to imprison yourself in the world of regret. Get out of these chains, start living from today and make plans for the future. Yes, you are struggling - every growth is coming from a struggle, but that is because you are the one you want you to make you the person you need to have the life you deserve you I will help you.