Email to a Friend: Resolving Conflict: Don't Make It About You

According to a survey by LifeWay Research, people insist that they are prepared to resolve conflicts between themselves and others. According to a survey of more than 1,000 American adults, some people agree with the opinion that nearly 85% are preparing for such a resolution.

They are ranked in seven options, and the respondents ranked less than half of "go to higher authority", "avoid problems, wish it to disappear", and "satisfy myself and others completely" I tried it in time. More than half of the time suggested "to yield to the other side" and "I pretend not to confront", nearly 75% of the time said "find neutrality"

But this deeper question reveals the process of thinking about how to solve the real problem of conflict. The answer most frequently mentioned - over 80% of the time - is "getting up on your own".

Experience will teach almost everyone who care about learning, they want to be in their own way - selfishness - it is not the cause of conflict, it is the cause of conflict. Those who seem to stick to their own way will hinder peace rather than to open a way for peace.

The Bible was settled centuries ago. In the letter to the Philippines in the New Testament, "If there is encouragement in Christ, if there is a comfort of love, if you have a relationship with the Holy Spirit, you can understand with feelings and compassion with the same way of thinking. I am pleased, share the same feelings, share the same feelings, not consciously focusing on one goal, we are conservatively thinking that others are more important than me, and for others "(Philippians Letter 2: 1-4, HCSB)

Please note that the emphasis on uniting in Section 2 depends on the attitudes mentioned in Sections 3 and 4, ie humility, preferences for others before yourself.

The humility as a means of solving conflicts and the attitude to stand up with others as the top priority is easy. If humility is a means to transfer conflicts from the outset, it is a necessary element to resolve the conflict.

As a believer in Christ, we must be peacemakers among our families, small groups, and religious families. When we pour the word of God together, make sure we remain humble and treat others. In other words, in response to the words of the apostle Paul say, "Turn your attitude into the attitude of Christ Jesus." Then you will unite more and less conflict.

Your small group can find Biblical views on the concept of "conflict" in a new group study of "Reflections of Relationships" series by Pastor Ron Edmundson's "Bible Studies of Life" series. They help them understand and deal with it as they begin to see it through the Bible's lens

It happens when there is a painful ring of conflict and intolerance in your body. You need to resolve the dispute with all the sacrifices. But your words did not make it good. They actually make the situation worse. And I have never heard of your email. A feeling like bumping into the intestine occurs, you feel better in a moment. You send the e-mail you sent many times over and over again. Please confirm that you are the best e-mail ever. And this e-mail will solve the problem. But it is not, it only makes the situation worse. You do not mind who you send the e-mail, so you can not see it unheard of. They closed you a few months ago. They can not see or hear you. You are meaningless in their world

Solving problems via e-mail can be attractive, especially if contradictory ideas make you feel irritated. However, trying to solve the difference in this way may be inefficient and the situation may worsen. It is easy to misunderstand others' thoughts when there is no such thing as voice or expression. This is particularly true when both sides feel defensive. So suck it and talk it directly - sometimes this gesture itself is enough to get rid of things.

Resolve conflict through fair confrontation. It is important not to be afraid of conflicts, no matter how you deal with the relationship difference. You need to be able to feel confident, express what is bothering you, resolve conflicts without taking a humiliating attitude, and without sticking to the right. I'd like to change it. All relationships will change over time The ones you want from a relationship first can be quite different from what you and your partner want in a few months or years. Accepting changes in health relations not only makes you happy, it also makes you a better person. More kind, more empathetic, more generous