Coping with grief and loss during the holidays

Family and solidarity are important themes of holidays. For those who have lost sad and loved ones, this may make the holidays very difficult. My father died one month before the holiday. We still share gifts, eat big meals, visit with friends, and even sing hymns - but everything is very soft

Dr. Michael Miller, former editor of the Harvard Mental Health Letter, says:

Sorrow is almost universal, but sometimes it is expressed in various ways, resembling severe depression. It is common to cry frequently during birth, depression, sleep disorders and anorexia

Sorrow is not a neat and orderly process, there is no correct way to sorrow. Everyone - every family - has different performances. This may lead to emotional conflicts and duplications, especially focusing on regeneration and updating, especially during the festival.

Below are the recommended strategies within the Harvard mental health letter, which can help you or something you know deal with sorrow during the vacation.

Let's make a new tradition. During the celebration dinner, place a candle with a fire on the table and leave some memorials in the sky chair

Change celebration. Instead of planning a carefully prepared meal at home, go out to dinner. Or arrange to travel with friends

Let's express your needs. A sad person may feel difficult to attend all the celebrations, and may need to abandon unsatisfactory traditions. You can now tell others that you have not achieved your goal or you have changed your plan at the end of the last. After my father's death, my older sister remembers not entering the Ord.

Please help others. Volunteering activities through charity groups and religious organizations may also be useful. Please commemorate the deceased and donate your favorite career. In retrospect, I hope I did this during that sad vacation.

Please take some time. The process of sorrow did not lead to neat conclusions in half a year or a year. According to the strength of the damaged bond, sorrow may last a lifetime. Still, sadness usually softens and changes over time. Over time, holidays will be easier to handle

During the holidays, sadness and sorrow become more typical and even may be a healthy symptom of sorrow. We accept the difficulties of this season of this year and can admit loss. I will present some guidelines to solve difficult emotions and deal with the holiday season. After our failure, our lives have been reversed. Definitely, this year's holiday is different from this year. Do not return to the "normal" state of the past, please accept the reality. A variety of approaches are suitable for this difficult time. To reduce unnecessary stress, you can consider using less money for other people to do their cooking, shopping, decoration and other activities. Instead of gathering with a lot of people, you can try to enjoy small gatherings with close friends and family.

This is true, it is always difficult to talk about loss and sorrow; at this time of the year it may be more difficult. However, in reality, there is a possibility of death and sadness even on holidays. Everyone has to do is to publish the news and to know that the bad things that happened this month are not mitigated. Illness and accidents are still occurring. Continue diagnosis of disease and continue treatment. Life begins and ends in December. If you have recently experienced a failure (or not recent failure), want to know how to operate the world around the world without holidays destroying or destroying other people So it's really tough. It's time. You may have begun to worry about the holidays as the first leaves of autumn began falling last year. For some people it may be very difficult from September until the end of the year.