Communication Patterns of Children During Conflict

As we grow, we will be socialized into appropriate norms to succeed in society. The socialization process begins at birth. The baby imitates his parents and, in time, will try to mimic his siblings and colleagues. Conflict is part of the life necessary for children to acquire skills to solve differences, and conflict is not necessarily a bad thing. However, peer conflicts can cause serious emotional and physical damage, which can lead to aggressive behavior. Many young people lack the necessary social skills to cope with the deterioration.

If all relationships are contradictory and communication is difficult or impossible, often contradictions are not resolved. Negative communication patterns such as mood and body language contradiction, various communication methods, etc. may even cause conflict expansion in some cases. By adopting an effective communication model with your partner, you will be able to solve the difference and resolve the contradiction without adversely affecting your relationship. This includes using 'I' statements to focus on issues rather than people, listening and providing feedback, and avoiding interruptions and accusations.

Conflict can not be avoided, it is not itself negative. An important part of the development of interpersonal skills is the ability to effectively manage conflicts encountered in all relationships. An important part for better handling conflicts is to pay attention to the pattern of conflict in a particular relationship and often to understand your negative reactions and the causes of your normal reaction. Many of the studies on conflict patterns are done in a romantic relationship at a couple, but concepts and survey results also apply to other relationships. The four common causes of conflict are criticism, demand, cumulative trouble, and rejection (Christensen & Jacobson, 2000). We all know from experiences that criticizing or evaluating the choice of others' personality, behavior, appearance or choice of life may cause inconsistencies. Comments need not be viewed as criticism

Colliding group (HCP) has a pattern of actions with many collisions that increase collisions rather than reducing or resolving collisions. This pattern is repeated frequently to various people in various situations. The problem that seems to have existed at that time was not to increase the conflict. "Problem" is not a problem. In HCP, inconsistent behavior patterns include many problems. All-or-nothing idea: HCP tends to recognize discrepancies with a simple solution rather than spending time analyzing situations and listening to various perspectives. Given some possible solutions, compromise and flexibility are impossible. If they did not work in their own way, they could not survive. If you do not handle things in ways that others want, they usually predict extreme results. If a friend does not agree with a small problem, they may end their friendships on the spot - all or nothing solution