Adult Attachment Theory in a Romantic Relationship

Human beings are born to learn to cooperate and participate by interacting with others, understanding different perspectives, and building interpersonal relationships with others. Interpersonal relations is an association based on love, support, and even commercial commitment in more than two people. Different kinds of relationships are formed between family, friends, and romance. The development of interpersonal relationship begins with attachment formed in early childhood.

In 1987, Cindy Hazan and Phillip Shaver announced the first application of attachment theory to attachment relationship. And it led to research on many theoretical studies and adult attachment. Interestingly, there are many similarities between love between parents and children and adult romantic love. For example, enthusiasts often use their favorite nicknames, slide into the rhythm of singing, often caressing each other or kissing each other, being fascinated by the appearance of each other, long term eyes I will spend touching time. Parents interact with the baby in exactly the same way. Potential neurophysiological processes are similar as well as for the same 'love' hormones such as oxytocin, which are involved in adults, that is, attachment of young children and adults - romantic love affairs of adults.

Many social psychologists have discovered that attachment theory helps to understand the relationship between adults and Plato and romance (Hazan & Shaver, 1987). They are interested in ways in which adult romantic relationships resemble the patterns of affection for infants. It seems that the strong appeal to the subjects of love, parents and lovers are similar. As a baby gazes at the eyes of a mother, an adult lover sometimes looks at the eyes of a loved one. When a mother leaves the room, the lovers will feel pain when they break up. In either case, we will work over time to avoid separation.

In the late 1980s, Cindy Hazan and Phillip Shaver extended attachment theory to a romantic relationship of adults. Adults identified four attachment styles: safety, anxiety - concentration, contempt - avoidance and fear - avoidance. These correspond roughly to the baby's classification: safety, anxiety - contradiction, anxiety - avoidance, and organization / disorientation. Anxious adults will be overly dependent on seeking high levels of intimacy, recognition and reaction from partners. They tend to be less trustworthy, have less positive opinions about themselves and their partners, and may exhibit a higher level of emotional expression, anxiety, impulsivity in their relationship.