A letter to… my friend with benefits

I have met you in about ten years. I feel that three marriages and four children between us have not changed anything. But of course. We are now over 40 years old, people who are old, some who are a little fat (of course I am) a little tired. Our 20s exciting days are completely behind us. The day without responsibility will be forever gone - even this lunch date must be planned in advance

Each of us has two children, you have two wives.

Facebook makes it easier for me to keep in touch as I allow you to enter the window of your life. I saw pictures of my wedding, I saw my children, and I saw your happiness - happiness is with a woman who is not me. Although we have reached mutually agreed arrangements, this is not always the easiest.

Does the millennial generation also have "good friends"? Those friends can enjoy the excitement of sex and the beauty of friendship, and you will not suffer the danger of being thrown away by missing the phone.

We have done this very complex arrangement for many years and we often bless ourselves to avoid relationships, emotions, and complexity of love.

But I love you. I love you when we start making arrangements. I loved you. Because you brought your girlfriend or other roommate home. I love you, when you leave to work in a different city, I cried for a couple of days. Even if you dance at my wedding ceremony, I love you. I love you when I listen to your wedding ceremony.

I was talking to other people about our relationship, but they asked us the time we were together. I remember her expression when we said that we were not together, never had a date, or sent a lover card. But I did a few things with you, I have never done it with my husband.

If you are lucky, experts say you love only three times in your life. I will allow you to be one of them and break the rules. You are not going to do this. You should make a good anecdote at the dinner party, laugh with your girlfriend, you should be drunk, "You still remember ...".

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I write letters to someone at least one weekly. My Nana, my overseas friends, my brothers ... regardless of who they are, these are people I rarely see, but their relationship is very important to me. Even if it takes me twice to write a message on social media, spending time writing letters to friends will never waste time. Process, patience, persistence ... These are the words lost today. Lettering is one of the few processes that can positively acquire these skills. The same can be said about mobile phones, televisions and laptops. We are in a distracting world, interpersonal relationships are taken as normal. Writing a letter helps us prioritize really important things in life.

The motivation for my writing this letter is driven by three main aspects, including society, economics and individuals. In this letter, I will discuss the social aspect of being friends with you, but as an economic aspect of shareholders, I may touch an individual level if I spare a little more time. Let's start with the most important dimensions. After the Arab Spring, so far, the Middle East has not shaken off the devastating events that are happening. You get plus and minus usage from the social level. Negative use is manifested in an unhealthy way, sometimes even in an ugly way, people actively communicate with each other. In this way, seeing colleagues, friends, families, and communities is separated from each other by opinions and ideas The vast majority of these opinions and ideas are not overwhelmed by the media and it is painful.