5 Ways Your Mind Deceives You When Your Heart Is Broken

Emotional pain due to disappointment is intolerable. Nothing else, no one else is important. We can not work, think, and act. We are trapped in our broken world and everyone feels lonely alone in lonely haze. All we can see is what hurt my heart.

What we most hope is to ease the pain and stop the injuries badly - but this is not our opinion

When our hearts are broken, our idea is very different from our agenda. As a result, it eventually fool us and makes things worse. If we want to stop hurting and go ahead, we need to know when we do not believe what our thoughts are telling us.

In order to stop the injury, we need to accept the reality of dissolution and try to go ahead. We need to reduce the time we spend thinking about sad people. We need to slowly and surely reduce their presence in our minds and lives.

Our idea is to oppose it. Our idea is that we hope to think about this person, keep pain, and never forget who caused it. Our idea is this because it tries to "protect" us in the usual way. If there is something that afflicts us like a hot stove our ideological work reminds us not to touch the stove again to see how painful it was for the first time for us . The greater the pain experienced by us, the harder it is to think about to forget it. Therefore, this "error" will never happen. Considering intolerable broken heart, our heart will make every effort to keep the pain of our heart fresh. As a result, our idea will make us think about ....

Our idea will try to remind us of the former best qualities. Their best image enters our mind without limitation. But the portrayal of our miserable people in this imbalanced, unrealistic and idealistic situation makes us more painful.

No, it is wrong, it does not matter. There are lots of frustrating, annoying or harmful moments. You also need to remember them.

Strong demands on text, messages, phone or e-mail will be very strong. But doing these things makes us feel more desperate and just makes me feel embarrassed and hurts our self-esteem.

No, it is not. Talking about emotional painful events is common - these events are useful if you do things in a problem solving way, or if we do this to get emotional verification. But just looking at the same details over and over again makes us feel sick.

It is actually useful to clearly understand why the split occurred. However, few of us have a clear and sincere explanation of these things. It is a rabbit hole trying to understand why things do not succeed as we enter our predecessor. "They do not have enough love" or "We are not right games" better.

For more information on sad healing, please check my future Ted Talk and How to Fix Sadness.

"You will lose someone you can not survive without you, your heart will suffer seriously, that you will never overcome the loss of your loved one completely. , This is also good news - it's like a broken foot that has never been perfectly healed - it will still hurt when the weather gets cold, but you will learn to dance with lame handicapped . "

Hurting your heart is very similar to hurting your leg. Please think about that. You are confused for three months, and depending on your participation you are a little useless. The first week is even worse, you can not eat, sleep, you can not even walk. Physical pain when walking. I know, I think it is crazy. Of course, whenever your heart breaks apart, you will receive permanent damage. Some people wonder if they can find someone who can be trusted, loved and cherished. Some guilt, perhaps you are the reason it happened and you may not hurt as you do not know what to fear.

You will guide your mind and reflect your thoughts. But your way is always honest. You believe in your feelings, but you also say your own thoughts. You let your heart risk you, but you also tell you the truth - whether it is happiness to share or acknowledge pain - whatever it means at this moment