“Express yourself don’t repress yourself!” Posted by Tibor on Feb 17, 2010 in Culture

No one likes Jantelagen. Sometimes people have very strange ideas about this topic. Unless it's about child abuse (barnaga / barnmisshandel) or what is truly terrible as people naturally oppose, you should not express a strong opinion on something. I remember having a conversation, I really opposed jantelagen, only one of my friends supported me. As we have said in Sweden about political correctness (politiskt korrekt), I ought to know something about it. This is expected. But I am different. I do not want to provoke people, but to be honest. But I'm confused about this problem. I have been thinking over the years, why do not I like j antelagen? I thought for a moment, but that would be due to my Hungarian tradition. Tamás Gellért (now the author of Sweden's largest writers and journalists and other books, he is the author of the famous book Lasermannen, a true story based on Stockholm's serial killer) wrote that Hungarian mentality is self Great (kaxig) and cruel honesty. I really do not know if he is right or wrong about this. I think anyone can recognize themselves in any of the Tamás Gellért or jantelagen statements. After reading his article, I realize that the real reason I do not like jantelagen is that I do not like gray. The undetectable and boring side is gray. I like talented people and they are all outstanding people. Or perhaps it is inconspicuous, but that applies to yourself as well. It is not wrong to show you that you can do it or that you have different opinions. This is human nature. It is not good to suppress your feelings. To be honest, people living according to Jean Terragen's regulations escape something just because they want to live what they created / decided by suppressing rather than solving the problem I hope not noticing what I did. "This is the reason I do not like jantelagen, I do not want that feeling, I want to know the reason behind the actions and remarks I did, do not worry! I will part with it from time to time."

I gathered some interesting lines and gathered people who live in Janteland = Sweden. Do not forget to generalize me as well. Do you think that you are a Swedish or a foreigner who became a Swedish?

If someone is talking to you on the bus (not a real reason) you would think that they are drunk or have psychological problems

# 1: You must marry yourself to become richer and poorer. This means that you fall in love with yourself. You will not say to yourself. I will marry you if you marry you or you arrive at the corner of Hollywood Hall of Fame when you lose 10 pounds or if you do not date with a loser, I am sorry, I did not love you. When you love yourself, you will do it your way. # 3: You will be better or worse than yourself. When big life is disappointing: You do not have your own home, you can not get the job you want, you are not graduating from college, perhaps you are not getting the relationship you wanted . Perhaps you are fighting your mother, maybe you've seen too many reality TVs whatever it is: it is no longer important.

Extreme self-esteem means to me that you are not what you want, but you still love yourself. You may get angry because you do not get the results you want but still respect yourself, do not consider yourself a complete failure, and do not weaken yourself in front of others. In addition, because only you own you, you understand that you may have any anxiety or bad feelings. The idea is that you are already doing it, if you truly understand where they come from, emotions are just emotions. Then, you can see that this is just a bundle of nonsense. This shows human imperfection, and the paradox is that the emotion he suggests is perfect as he has experienced.