“Expectations are resentments under construction.”

An artist in the Bay Area, Anrramo says: There are many wisdom in her words, but for most of us, learning takes a lifetime. Or forget it. Every time we enter a conversation, conference, or deal, we bring a series of expectations. If you fail to meet positive expectations or positive expectations are not met, the interaction will shake. I will face it. We all expect how other people behave or should be. They are like prejudice and they create obstacles among people grabbing them. This type of interaction is always embarrassing before starting. On a political side, we are constantly looking at this.

The same can be said about our marriage, child rearing, and leadership. The obvious expectation is certainly a kind of indignation under construction. When I think about this concept, I have challenged myself, paying attention to how much I have an implicit expectation throughout the day. A part of this observation of myself led me to make me more acute when indignation was established. Here are some of the "warning signs" I noticed here: Adjusting your expectations - Life is a series of adjustments, whether you have the expected discussions with others or not. If you reflexively adjust your expectations flexibly, you will spend a lot of time paining the pain and indignation. It is not always fair, correct, or fair, but the inner resentment only hurt you.

Expectation is the cause of disappointment. Without expectation, there is no heartache. If there is no hope, there is no resentment. I would not be disappointed that he did not do it if I did not expect to repair the grill where D had been broken for months. I will not indignant him for keeping me down. The truth is that our grill is still broken, but I was not disappointed because I did not expect D to repair it. A good example: I was extremely irritated in the middle of the roast duck house in Beijing. Before going to the bathroom, I ordered broccoli instead of Chinese broccoli according to my request and trusted the order. He should know that I do not like broccoli! How can I make such a mistake? ! What? He must not love me! Now our whole meal is being ruined!