‘Does Trying to Be Happy Make Us Unhappy?’

A friend points me to Adam Grant. He is a professor at Wharton School of Business. I listened to one of his podcasts, followed him on Twitter, and read an incredible article. He wrote as follows.

He quoted a lot of neuroscientific evidence in his post, I like it. And he pointed out a lot of points, I will not discuss it here because you want you to read your own articles by yourself.

... If you really want to experience happiness or meaning, you need to transform your focus into projects and relationships that bring joy and meaning as a by-product from joy and meaning.

For me, I think this is very important. Pleasure and meaning are outputs, not inputs. Pleasure and meaning are byproducts of actions we take, such as projects and encounters with friends. Pleasure and meaning come from "enjoyment of travel".

In particular, paying attention to what disappears from the concept of a certain time, Gran closes the state of mind about "flow". People in the stream do not explain it as a condition of happiness but explain it as happiness status

For me, "flow" comes from fierce gatherings with entrepreneurs, friends, my partner's chasing, cooking, composition and family flying. I am very focused on these activities. I am flowing.

To be honest, I met many entrepreneurs who seemed to lack happiness. To be honest, it was one of the most anti-climatic moments in my life to enter Yale University; I received a letter of acceptance, I pumped up very much, and I said, "Well, how are you? thought.

That is why when you try to be happy you will be unhappy. Because wanting to be happy means that you do not live in an ideal self, you will not match the quality of the person you want to be. After all, if you show your ideal self, you do not feel the need to be happy. This is why happiness is so short. Just by setting yourself a big life goal, achieving that goal and understanding that they feel the same amount of happiness / misfortune, everyone seems to be happy so that happiness is waiting for you to appear I know that I feel. Regardless of which aspect of your life, there is always another thing that requires you to do something special - especially happy.

Whether we choose to be happy. To my surprise, no one can announce your happiness. You should find it yourself and make your life happier. The choice and attitude always makes you feel happy or unhappy. This is usually experienced when there is no worry, fear, or obsession. When we do whatever we do in our lives are all for the pursuit of happiness. Over the past 100 years, we overdo on this planet. With the use of science and technology, we changed the face of the earth. Today, we have comfort and convenience that other generations can not imagine. We are definitely the most comfortable generation on this planet. Are we happy generation too? No? We have kept enormous energy and cost to develop these technologies, but why are we not happy?

Content is still unsatisfactory whether we are happy or unhappy. That is the result of the process in our thinking. The default program for unconscious thinking is designed to make us suffer. It does this by constantly responding to reality and the emotions reality produces in our body. Not only that, our unconscious pattern shows that for the external environment, we are not happy and suffering, or we need to get something. Indeed, there is no need to suffer in any situation.